tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4307946577264246422.post176406778494066351..comments2023-10-18T01:06:37.037-07:00Comments on Swag on, momma!: Sunday Thoughts: Your Spouse Can't Heal YouAmy @ Swag On, Momma!http://www.blogger.com/profile/12569088581879633863noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4307946577264246422.post-84276276734326922172015-01-22T02:18:48.486-08:002015-01-22T02:18:48.486-08:00Love this post! Followed you over here from Spirit...Love this post! Followed you over here from Spiritual Sundays at Brittany Bullen. I think it takes a while to get the perspective in marriage that one disagreement isn't the end of the world and some things take time (like, more than an hour) to fully resolve - but that's okay! Even if you don't see eye to eye on something really serious, you can still love each other and have a good marriage during the days, months, or even years while you're working through it!Jenny Evanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06320766378823015885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4307946577264246422.post-78490613373283894592014-11-09T20:03:59.861-08:002014-11-09T20:03:59.861-08:00Amy,
Thanks so much for sharing this at Spiritual...Amy,<br /><br />Thanks so much for sharing this at Spiritual Sundays. I know that feeling, wanting your husband to be there for you and finding out he's asleep! Haha that happens to us all the time.<br /><br />I think that's so true, isn't it? We need to look to our Savior for healing. What a great reminder. <br /><br />I hope to hear more about you soon!<br />Brittany Brittanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12651797221632773955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4307946577264246422.post-59743058474081093982014-04-19T11:34:36.666-07:002014-04-19T11:34:36.666-07:00I just LOVE when you share things like this so tha...I just LOVE when you share things like this so that I don't feel like I'm crazy for going through the same things. I thought marriage was going to be a cinch from day one, hahaha. I LOVE being married and have a wonderful husband, but we both have to work at it- learn, change, make sacrifices. That's what we are here to do and learn. And through it all we grow closer to the Savior. I have totally learned that HE is the one we have to turn to and in so doing we become closer to Him AND our spouse!! Thanks again Amy!TrinaJoyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07211331661235717669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4307946577264246422.post-71540898383537416502013-10-17T21:00:44.874-07:002013-10-17T21:00:44.874-07:00Yeah, that's true...its something I'm sure...Yeah, that's true...its something I'm sure we'll keep working on through our marriage. :) Thanks for reading! :)Amy @ Swag On, Momma!https://www.blogger.com/profile/12569088581879633863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4307946577264246422.post-66062772364745804382013-10-17T20:59:35.808-07:002013-10-17T20:59:35.808-07:00Thanks, Marcie! :)Thanks, Marcie! :)Amy @ Swag On, Momma!https://www.blogger.com/profile/12569088581879633863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4307946577264246422.post-16486949964680732552013-10-08T07:20:20.457-07:002013-10-08T07:20:20.457-07:00Such a great post Amy! I have been in this same s...Such a great post Amy! I have been in this same situation quite a few times. It's hard for spouses to understand each other at the beginning of marriage and even later on. Thanks for the reminder to include the Savior in our search for help :)Elise Enghhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11487702713509633513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4307946577264246422.post-58840975426537818182013-10-07T14:50:15.669-07:002013-10-07T14:50:15.669-07:00This is an awesome post. Sharing!
Marcie @ I Gotta...This is an awesome post. Sharing!<br />Marcie @ I Gotta Try ThatI Gotta Try Thathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10997351854549958139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4307946577264246422.post-71580144599394789042013-10-03T13:42:40.640-07:002013-10-03T13:42:40.640-07:00Thanks for sharing, Ashley! :)Thanks for sharing, Ashley! :)Amy @ Swag On, Momma!https://www.blogger.com/profile/12569088581879633863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4307946577264246422.post-17786951358306627162013-10-03T13:42:20.994-07:002013-10-03T13:42:20.994-07:00Thanks, Chelsey! Thanks, Chelsey! Amy @ Swag On, Momma!https://www.blogger.com/profile/12569088581879633863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4307946577264246422.post-17860504174028157262013-10-03T12:46:00.192-07:002013-10-03T12:46:00.192-07:00Love this post Amy! Pinned and Google +ed it! Th...Love this post Amy! Pinned and Google +ed it! Thanks for sharing your heart!<br />AshAshley at flats to flip flopshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02156785293147379647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4307946577264246422.post-40706101813815327512013-10-03T10:51:10.542-07:002013-10-03T10:51:10.542-07:00Great post and insight. We've had several inst...Great post and insight. We've had several instances where we are reminded of this. Sometimes you forget. ;)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11128930697854457720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4307946577264246422.post-22830473392653970712013-10-02T21:17:01.101-07:002013-10-02T21:17:01.101-07:00Yay for 12 years! :) Yeah, I agree--there's a...Yay for 12 years! :) Yeah, I agree--there's a point when you don't have to be so sensitive anymore. For me, it was as we became for comfortable and safe in our relationship, I knew that he would never hurt me on purpse. SO, when he did hurt my feelings, I tried to give him the benifit of the doubt instead of jumping to take offense. I'd think, "He probably didn't mean it that way." or "I bet he didn't realize I wanted to do ____. I should have told him." Thanks for your comment! :)Amy @ Swag On, Momma!https://www.blogger.com/profile/12569088581879633863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4307946577264246422.post-65317476290757098612013-10-01T11:05:41.093-07:002013-10-01T11:05:41.093-07:00Hi Amy, I love this post - it's so real and he...Hi Amy, I love this post - it's so real and heartfelt! I totally can relate, too. So many times in the early years of my marriage I had all these assumptions running through my head about what my husband must be thinking/feeling which were totally not true. It's only as I started really understanding him did I stop being so sensitive - this also helped me to love him better. And as we both look to God and walk with Him, we grow closer to each other. It gets better with each year (we are going on 12 now)! Thanks for sharing this post! :)Liwen Y. Hohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05195974521918846463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4307946577264246422.post-42799322613938877612013-09-30T14:40:07.129-07:002013-09-30T14:40:07.129-07:00Haha...yeah, you end up waiting a looong time. :) ...Haha...yeah, you end up waiting a looong time. :) That is so funny that he didn't even remember being grumpy! Yes, now and then, I'll cuddle up to Patrick and he'll scoot away quickly, and I'll be all hurt, and then I realize, "Ok, I can't get offended--He is asleep, for heaven sake! He doesn't even know he did it!" Ha.Amy @ Swag On, Momma!https://www.blogger.com/profile/12569088581879633863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4307946577264246422.post-58722571617154090412013-09-30T14:37:10.263-07:002013-09-30T14:37:10.263-07:00Chelsey--yes! I remember you! :) Thanks so much f...Chelsey--yes! I remember you! :) Thanks so much for reading and commenting! Amy @ Swag On, Momma!https://www.blogger.com/profile/12569088581879633863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4307946577264246422.post-51709302068711268582013-09-30T14:36:02.668-07:002013-09-30T14:36:02.668-07:00Ha, he just slept though it, huh? Hahah... Yep, i...Ha, he just slept though it, huh? Hahah... Yep, it can be scary to talk about issues, especially for us who retreat and clam up when it comes to conflict. maybe everybody does have a night like this! :) Thanks for your comment, Emily!Amy @ Swag On, Momma!https://www.blogger.com/profile/12569088581879633863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4307946577264246422.post-60865839664832625042013-09-29T22:19:38.227-07:002013-09-29T22:19:38.227-07:00Totally understand that! I had a whole night of th...Totally understand that! I had a whole night of thinking Paul was mad at me and I couldn't get him to answer me. Turned out he fell asleep and just rolled over fast and was grumpy in his sleep. He woke up toe puffy eyed and asking what I'd done and last he knew he was kissing me! But I'd had a few of those nights waiting for him to come talk more. It doesn't work. Everyone has to find their way of working things out.Kelliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09988315648491953945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4307946577264246422.post-35771169601137665502013-09-29T22:03:50.351-07:002013-09-29T22:03:50.351-07:00Hey Amy not sure if you remember me from our Europ...Hey Amy not sure if you remember me from our Europe travels, but just wanted to let you know I think your blog is great! This is a great post so relatable I think most couples have those fights and tears learning to live together thanks for sharing your experience its very upliftingChelseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01456402836058802844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4307946577264246422.post-38003562867656425482013-09-29T21:55:30.253-07:002013-09-29T21:55:30.253-07:00I'm starting to wonder if everyone has a night...I'm starting to wonder if everyone has a night like this. On mine I was actually so upset I drove away. Poor Matt slept through the whole thing. Ha I think it came from only a few months marriage and the fact that I was barely twenty. He had no clue I was even upset because we didn't argue. I'm more a suffer in silence type. I'm not even sure what I was upset about any more. It's a challenge, but marriage can be amazing. The key is communication. ;-)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00185114769483794452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4307946577264246422.post-89184288349523503532013-09-29T21:41:30.489-07:002013-09-29T21:41:30.489-07:00Tracy, that is such a good point...we can only con...Tracy, that is such a good point...we can only control ourselves. I've learned that there's usually fault and room for improvement by both spouses, even when I think that my husband is SO in the wrong! Haha! But, it can be hard, and it can take prayer to want to understand and see our spouses perspective. <br /><br />For the "never go to bed angry" thing, yeah, I think that statement is definitely not a one size fits all. I think it also depends on if your'e a night person or not...I like talking at night, but my husband is just irritated, cause he wants to sleep. SO if it's too late, then those conversations don't go that well anyway. Ha! I try to think of it as, what if he woke me up at 6:30 am to have some deep conversation? I'd be TICKED! And totally uncooperative. So, yeah, we try to address things when we both are awake and ungrumpy. Thank you so much for your comment! Your insights have always meant a lot to me. Love you!Amy @ Swag On, Momma!https://www.blogger.com/profile/12569088581879633863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4307946577264246422.post-45987554646633485602013-09-29T21:32:36.861-07:002013-09-29T21:32:36.861-07:00Ha...UM, Brittany did you just apologize for comme...Ha...UM, Brittany did you just apologize for commenting!? Ha! NO way, I love comments. It's so nice to feel heard. And, I especially love your comments. THank you! :)Amy @ Swag On, Momma!https://www.blogger.com/profile/12569088581879633863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4307946577264246422.post-33051315280156254592013-09-29T21:26:34.788-07:002013-09-29T21:26:34.788-07:00Sorry I am always commenting! But I love your blog...Sorry I am always commenting! But I love your blog. Thanks for sharing. I think a lot of people can relate, myself included, and its not always easy to share out loud. Very good post.Brittanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04204467777293307696noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4307946577264246422.post-22738554751833930502013-09-29T21:24:06.891-07:002013-09-29T21:24:06.891-07:00I love this post.
I am totally going against the...I love this post. <br /><br />I am totally going against the grain by saying that I don't subscribe to the "never go to bed angry" philosophy. Sleeping on the issue, and then addressing it in the morning when everyone has rested, has some perspective, and is no longer emotionally charged, is way better than trying to stay up all night and hash it out. In the morning, I usually have let go of whatever my hang up was, and can better resolve/compromise. But, whatever works for each couple! <br /><br />My hubby would rather resolve it right then, and so we have both learned that in order to avoid these situations, we try not to start these kinds of conflict conversations right when it is time for bed. <br /><br />Also, early in our marriage right after we moved to TX we had a big conflict and I had a similar situation to you. I locked myself in the bathroom and cried my little heart out in prayer to Heavenly Father. I recognized that in order for our marriage to survive (and be happy), that one of us would have to change, and that I only had control over myself, so it would have to be me. And I didn't want to change. So I asked Heavenly Father to soften my heart and help me first to WANT to change, and then to help me change. I knew I couldn't do it on my own. It worked! :DTracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16500372000971118246noreply@blogger.com